There is no single Indigenous wedding. First Nations, Métis and Inuit communities across Canada have their own languages, teachings, ceremonies and protocols, and these differ from Nation to Nation and family to family. Some ceremonies are not meant to be described or shared outside the community at all.
So this guide does not try to tell you what an Indigenous wedding looks like. It is about how to plan with care, so the people who carry your traditions can lead, and the venues and vendors you choose can support them.
Start with your family and community
The best guidance comes from home. Talk with your family and, if you have one, an Elder or Knowledge Keeper from your Nation or community. They can tell you which teachings and ceremonies are appropriate, who should lead them, and what protocol to follow when you ask for their help. Protocols for asking, such as offering tobacco or a gift, vary between Nations, so ask someone you trust what is right for yours.
If you and your partner come from different Nations or backgrounds, give both families time to share what matters to them.
Choosing a place
Many couples want to marry on land that holds meaning for them, outdoors, by water, or in a community space. When you look at venues, ask:
- ✦Is smudging welcome indoors or outdoors, and are there any smoke detector rules?
- ✦Can there be a sacred fire, and who needs to approve it?
- ✦Is there space for a circle, drumming and singing?
- ✦Is the venue happy for an Elder to lead without changes or time limits?
- ✦Will staff be respectful of items and ceremonies that should not be touched or photographed?
Photography and sharing
Some parts of a ceremony should not be photographed, recorded or posted. Agree this with your Elder before the day, and make sure your photographer, videographer and guests know. A good photographer will be glad to put the camera down when asked.
Supporting Indigenous businesses
Many couples choose Indigenous caterers, artists, beaders, photographers and planners. On OpenDates, businesses can tick the traditions they know well, and you can browse businesses with experience in Indigenous weddings. Always ask a business about its own experience and connection to community.
The legal side
To be legally married in Canada, you need a provincial or territorial marriage licence and a registered officiant. Some Elders and community leaders are registered officiants; others lead the ceremony while a registered officiant completes the legal part. Our guide to who can marry you in Canada explains the basics, and each province's licence guide is in our journal.
Frequently asked questions
Can a non-Indigenous partner take part in Indigenous ceremonies?
Often yes, with guidance from the Elder or Knowledge Keeper leading the ceremony. Ask them what is appropriate.
Should we include a land acknowledgement?
Many couples do. If you include one, make it sincere and specific to the land you are on, and ask someone from the community if you are unsure.
Where do we find an Elder or Knowledge Keeper?
Start with your own family and community. Friendship centres and Nation offices can sometimes help, and you should follow their protocol for asking.
Plan it in one place
Keep the guest list, budget, wedding website and seating chart together in OpenDates Ever After, free for couples, and find venues and vendors free on your date with OpenDates.
With warm wishes to you both, Kristina
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