Canada has one of the largest Filipino communities outside the Philippines, from Winnipeg and Toronto to Calgary, Edmonton and Vancouver. Filipino weddings are warm, faith-filled and full of family, and many couples blend them with Canadian traditions and venues.
Customs differ between regions and families, so use this as a starting point to talk through with your parents and sponsors.
Principal and secondary sponsors
Many Filipino weddings have principal sponsors (ninong and ninang), respected couples or relatives who act as witnesses and mentors for the marriage. Secondary sponsors each take part in a symbol during the ceremony: one pair for the candles, one for the veil, one for the cord and one for the coins.
Choosing sponsors is an honour, so ask them early and tell them what is involved. It also helps your officiant and photographer to have the list.
The veil, cord and coins
During a Catholic or Christian ceremony, three symbols are often part of the vows:
- ✦The veil is draped over the couple's shoulders, a sign of being clothed as one.
- ✦The cord (yugal), often a figure-eight rope or a cord of flowers, is placed over the couple's shoulders for an unbreakable bond.
- ✦The coins (arras), usually thirteen, are blessed and given from one partner to the other as a promise to provide for the home.
If your ceremony is in a church, ask the parish early about their own rules and booking times. Many Canadian parishes ask for marriage preparation classes months ahead.
The reception
Filipino receptions are big, joyful and often full of food. Look for:
- ✦A caterer who can do lechon and favourite family dishes, or a venue that allows an outside Filipino caterer.
- ✦The money dance, where guests pin money on the couple's clothes or give envelopes while they dance.
- ✦Performances and games from family and friends.
- ✦Doves or butterflies released by some couples, which are best checked with the venue first.
What to wear
Many couples and families wear a barong tagalog, the light embroidered formal shirt, or a Filipiniana gown with butterfly sleeves. Allow several months if you are ordering from the Philippines.
Vendors who know your traditions
A photographer who knows when the veil and cord go on will be in the right spot. A host or DJ who knows the money dance will keep it fun and moving. On OpenDates, businesses can tick the traditions they know well. Browse Filipino wedding businesses across Canada and ask about your date.
Frequently asked questions
How many sponsors should we have?
There is no fixed number. Some couples choose two principal sponsors and some choose ten or more. Choose people who will truly support your marriage.
Can we include the veil, cord and coins in a non-church ceremony?
Yes. Many officiants are happy to include them in a civil or outdoor ceremony with a short explanation for guests.
When do we do the money dance?
Usually after dinner and the first dance, when guests are relaxed and the dance floor is open.
Plan it in one place
Find venues and vendors free on your date with OpenDates, and keep the guest list, sponsors, budget, wedding website and seating chart together in OpenDates Ever After, free for couples.
Congratulations! Kristina
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